When my hubby and I became parents on our honeymoon, it was not what we wanted, but it is what God had planned. For months I struggled with the idea of being pregnant. I hated the idea so much I would cringe at the word! I felt as if God was laughing at me; and would often pray: "OK God you gave me this desire and talent and take it away by making me a mom!" It wasn't until I sat down and talked with a mom mentoring friend of mine that I got a different perspective. She helped me see that being a mom wasn't a burden that was taking away but was a gift that was giving to. When I thought about that it made sense. Our children do not come into our lives to rule them, but they become part of the family, we are ones in large and in charge!
We are called to be Priest, Prophet and Queen to our children; if we allow our children to abolish our calling by making them the center of our lives leaving out our husbands, duty and responsibility than we are not fulfilling our calling to do as God called us to do. Children come into our lives and leave them again. If they become our job than when they leave we will be forced into early retirement with no purpose in our lives. But if our children are an appropriate part of the fabric of our lives than their leaving will be a natural outcome of our calling as parents. Our married lives will not be disturbed, our other responsibilities will not be overshadowed; children will be seen as the blessing they can be.