You is kind. You is smart. You is important.
If you have seen the movie or read the book of The Help, than that line is most likely very familiar to you; it is the line that a maid/nanny says to a young neglected white child in her charge. The story of The Help is set in the South of the sixties when Jim Crow was "law" and having servants was a sign that you were upper crust. The white families that had maids assumed that their treatment of them was loving and kind. They would never think that treating those hard working women, doing the jobs these white women could have easily done, as if they were slaves was anything but what was expected, even desired. The white women would defend their behavour by saying it was what everyone did.
It is the same attitude that many of us have when we assume something goes wrong for someone as if they are getting what they deserve; it is the attitude of Deuteronomy. We act towards those persons as if we were the Southern white women of Help; with our noses in the air and our attitude just as snotty. It only changes for us, as it did for those women, when things became very personal, when confronted with a choice just as Job was, stay stuck in the mire of their sinfulness/woundedness or use the opportunity to move on and grow, and it will only truly get better if we choose to move on and grow. It is ungodly to continue to treat others in any way but as the Great Commandment says: Love God with all your soul, all your heart, all your mind and love your neighbour as yourself.
This is what I think God is saying to us, use what is going on to your advantage, to your spiritual growth and good; and remember You is Kind, You is Smart, You is Important