The message he records for his daughter is entitled: Facebook Parenting for the Troubled Teen. Right there you can imagine that there is more to this story, and its not a good a story. The father is clearly sick and tired of his daughter and her actions. It can be surmised from the very scant evidence that he is not too pleased with his daughters friends. All of this is something that parents deal with on a daily, week, sometimes hourly basis. There is no house, no parent, no family that doesn't have to deal with some thing, but to go to extremes only escalates the trouble.
This father is hurting, frustrated but now he has brought himself to the level of his daughter. He sounds more like a teenage boy than the King of the family God intended him to be. When you let emotion and especially frustration take over you are no longer in control. You have thrown down the gauntlet and your teen will pick it up and it will get ugly.
Now the social worker comes out in me and I begin to think of what back story is there that we are not privy to, what is going on at home that makes dad want to do this? This situation is serious and by escalating this father has created a war that no one will win. He has broken trust, who wants to have their dirty laundry aired in the front garden for all the world to see. What this video says is that I don't trust, like you or want to help you grow to be who God has called you to be; I just want to fight you! To my social worker eye its seems as if Father is very controlling and daughter seems to be very reactionary. Read I Am Yellow for an examination of personality in our home, and Four Color Personality for a definition of each personality color. Father and daughter may have personality traits in common and that often leads to conflict of personality, authority and relationships. I deduce this from the fact that daughter is so willing to rub daddy's nose in it and daddy is willing to treat her so badly.
In the book The Authentic Catholic Women, by Genevieve Kineke she talks about how love has a more powerful effort on children and is a powerful tool in parenting than belittling and emotional-spiritual abuse I say this Father is heaping on his daughter. Think of how Mary dealt with the situation of Jesus in the Temple. I am sure that she was like any of us when confronted with a missing teen, panicked! But Mary keeps her head about her, she did not over act, like this Father is doing, she considered the best course of action and followed it, She searches for her son until she finds him and instead of belittling, berating him she asks him why he is there, questions his responses and treats him with parental respect.
That is something very glaringly missing with this Father: Parental respect for his child. I am not saying that he should condone what she is doing, forgive it and let her continue that would as bad as what he is doing now. No, parental respect says I am your parent, your guide, you protector, I will treat with dignity, I will teach you to reach always for good, to love others and God as you well as yourself, I will accept that God made you unique and to learn how to parent that unique you. Discipline will be balanced with forgiveness and forgiveness will be a component of discipline for without it you, my child, will remain stuck feeling unworthy. What I am willing to do for and with you, I will receive in kind from you to me and everyone else you meet.
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