When our eldest son was younger he had quite an issue with anger. We had done all the things that you do to teach a child how to use his words, not hit when frustrated. We did it all, but I realized he just didn't get it, it was confusing to him all this talk, talk; he needed something concrete.
As a mother, the first teacher of our children, and as Queen the guide, we have to be part detective to understand what our children need to help them become what God has called them to be.
There are three different types of learns:
Visual learners learn primarily through the written word.
They tend to be readers who diligently take down every word.
Auditory learners learn primarily through listening.
They focus their ears and attention on your words, listening carefully to everything you say. They like to talk rather than write and relish the opportunity to discuss what they've heard.
Kinesthetic learners learn better by doing.
This group learns best when they can practice what they are learning.
They want to have their hands on the keyboard, the hammer, or the test tube because they think in terms of physical action
Our eldest was more of a visual learner so we came up with angry bear. When our son wasn't angry the bear was asleep and looking as cute as can be. As our son would become more and more upset the bear would get bigger, the point was to come and talk to us before the bear got as big and mean looking as our graphic. The size of the bear gave us a clue as to how to treat the situation, bigger the bear bigger the problem. The bear became an avenue for communication, it was easier to talk about the bear's feelings, especially for a boy who didn't have the words to say how he was feeling.
Why does this work? Giving the child something they can understand gives them greater control, they feel that now they have a way of letting mom and dad know what is going on. Children, especially young children, don't have the vocabulary for emotions. Emotions are not easy to describe.
What have you done to help your child deal with emotions?