I was either on the phone of talking with moms, or being sought after, after Mass.
Yesterday was the feast of the Immaculate Conception of Mary and it always brings up issues for some of my moms.
One of the most emotional issues is how does the church view women. Some of my moms come from families where women were looked at as the sexual temptress who brought sin into the world. In these families sex was seen as dirty. Many of these moms were told by their own mothers that Eve brought that dirty act into the world and Mary as a virgin all her life never had to suffer from it. Their own moms would say that with a sort of relief, as if sex was something other people did. It's the old grit your teeth and think of England kinda thing. What does this say about the nature of marriage: that it’s not the mutual relationship that love in the form of sex is meant to be; that marital sex does not communicate the deep love husband and wife have for each other?
Then there are those who have families that want to see Mary as if she had no say. We have free will and clearly Mary had a choice. The larger issue isn't the choice, it's the trust! And it’s the trust issue of that acceptance that many of my directee moms battle with. In their families some of their own moms never felt as if they had a choice. Their own moms felt forced in marriage, children and as if that choice destroyed their dreams. Their own moms mourning for the live they wished they had made their daughters feel as if motherhood was a trap, and that to love and want to be with a man, be a mother, was a betrayal of their own mom. If you look at the Magnificat:
My soul magnifies the Lord and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior for He has looked on His servant in her lowliness.
For behold, henceforth, all generations shall call me blessed; for He who is mighty has done great things for me, and holy is His name;
And His mercy is from age to age on those who fear Him.
He has shown strength with His arm,
He has scattered the proud-hearted, He has cast down the mighty from their thrones, and lifted up the lowly; He has filled the hungry with good things, sent the rich away empty.
He has helped His servant Israel, remembering his mercy, as He spoke to our fathers to Abraham and to His seed forever. Amen.
…you see this is no prayer/song of a little meek will-less girl! It is the song of a young woman who knows she is going to be a leader, a mom who will bring into the world and raise to adulthood the Saviour! She knows God has her back!
In no way is Mary this wimpy little girl-woman. Does she know the moment that she said yes she would become the first apostle of Christ, the leader of the women in Christ’s live, and the powerful positive mom Christ needed to help him be obedient to his parents; so that “Jesus grew in wisdom and stature and in favor with God and men?” I don’t know, do we know what the future lies for us? But I do believe that she saw that she had to be a strong woman, a strong leader to do all she now accepted to do.