The job of a director is to listen, to be a guide only when necessary and just let the directee and God have the conversation; being new at all of that I didn't handle this poor mom well and she never returned, something I still pray for forgiveness about; but what it did do was help me see that not every mom has a joyful beginning to their motherhood. Not every newlywed knows what to expect from being married. That sometimes how things begin can colour how they end. That every woman/mom needs support to be all they are called to be.
I wish I knew what happened with this mom, but if the situation came again I know I would handle it differently. First off I would just listen, not try to advise. This mom had a lot to say to God. She had every right to question what was going on in her young life. At 24 she was just beginning her life and at the time could only see her pregnancy as a road block. She needed time to grieve the old her. When this mom came to me she was in her mid-30's but that 24 year old young bride was still very much in control of what was going on!
|Sadly not for everyone|
It was time to discern how to see the problems at hand. Because for us to go forward in our life, we must look at those things that block our process. God who is the author of all good things, who makes all things new, who in him we have new life; is more than willing to help us move beyond those spiritual-emotional blocks in our life. It means looking at some unpleasant things, holding a mirror up to ourselves, and it means that we have some work to do, but in the end there is the guarantee of new life!
I pray that mom found someone who could help her to create her life anew!