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Our Second Twin Daughter
Who we were told was not going
to survive her first night alive
Experiences are what makes us who we are.  It helps us shape our view of the world.  It helps us create who we are, we are called to be and how we wish to help God in the creation of our life.  This Sunday is one that had my mind working.  The first reading speaks of the industrious wife.  She is the pride of her husband.  The second reading warns us of the thief in the night who wants to take from us all we have. The Gospel reading tells of how God does not want us to bury our talents.

God gives to us everything we need -you can read here that experiences are one of the many talents God gives - to be who we are and to live as we are called.  So, I have been involved with this blog conversation with Rae over the remark: "So what's one more kid?"  Her experience is very different that mine.  God has give each of us different talents, experiences, to shape our lives.  Here is my reply to to her blog post:

Rae, I can understand your point. Each of our children are precious gifts. I have a heart condition that made each of my four pregnancies, live birth with complications, miscarriage, only live birth without complications, emergency C-section because my twins and I were minutes toward a heart attack for me and womb death for them; were a bit of a challenge, but still what’s another child, if I can handle that……

But for me, it speaks more to the confidence of knowing you can are capable. And yes each child is a different personality to learn, a different person to understand and challenges you as a mother everyday must deal with: good and bad. Me as a mother with more mothering experience under my belt I still stand by my post.

We have dealt with our eldest and his turbulent teens years, in fact ten years of turbulence, enough to break a mother’s heart. But still with love, patience, hope and a great deal of prayer we all survived and not only that, thrived! He now lives on his own in Chicago.

We have been through the college overwhelmed depression of our second son, who came home after being so depressed he did not leave his dorm room for a whole semester. Again with love, patience and prayer we all triumphed. He is doing well, back to creating video games and working with a group of friends in creating a gaming business of his own, being a healthy well adjusted Junior in College.

With our twinnies premature birth I was in the hospital everyday for two months, dealing with that you deal with as a preemie mom. Our youngest twin was not supposed to survive, her blood chemistry at birth was well; we were told she was to have CP, learning difficulties, not be able to speak the list goes on…. they both are sixteen, driving, belonging to drama club doing all the things sixteen year olds do.

What each experience has taught me is that life with all its ups and downs is a joy, a blessing, filled with possibility only if you wish it to be, if you have hope that it will be and if you have God as a partner.

You talk about how what’s another one being what sticks in your craw, well mine is “You should have used tough love on you eldest and kicked him out.” Michelle, Joy, Rae, I suggest that is the statement that makes a Child, a Kid, denying them their full personhood. My hubby and I both knew that to raise children takes great love, discipline, patience and HOPE. We dealt with with our eldest, now 26, and all our children as they needed, as was best for each of them and their individual personalities and what will help him/her grow stronger.

So, what is one more!

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What's one More
How Many Children Do You Daughters Want

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